When on a date, many people make mistakes that cost them a relationship that otherwise might have been the one they were hoping for, or at the very least, leads to them going home empty handed. Here are some tips on avoiding that situation.
1. Be confident! Nervousness almost never wins you any friends, or dates either. Confidence is a great and attractive quality for both genders. Some people think it's innate or something you are born with, but that's not true. Everyone has doubts and worries, but it takes a certain mindset to be able to be cool, calm, and confident in your everyday life, but even more so when on a date.
2. Coming on too strong. Don't lay it on too heavy. Even if your date does like the affection, down the road it becomes harder to impress them with compliments. Most people are intrigued by a combination of aloofness yet reciprocating their emotions at just the right time. For many the timing comes naturally, so just act natural. If that serenade outside their balcony feels like it's too much, it probably is. If the timing feels right, for example, showering a date with flowers after a bad argument, it can be very endearing.
3. Learn what they enjoy. Often times a date will just go along with whatever the other person wants to do. Sometimes it's up to each partner to discover what the other person enjoys and to pursue those hobbies together. If a date hates horror and loves romantic comedies, taking them along to see every "Saw" sequel might drive them crazy - and out of the relationship.
With all these steps, it may be possible to strike the right chord with most people. There are exceptions - some dates like overly affectionate behavior, over-the-top serenades and attention. Others may like a goofball who has the confidence of a mouse, thinking they are cute, and some people enjoy being taken onto new hobbies they never enjoyed or discovered before. But for everyone else, these three tips can be used to great success.
To sum it up, be confident, but confidence does not mean constantly saying "I love you" over and over on the first date. Laying it on too strong is a recipe for disaster, a balance between the cold shoulder and going head over heels is best. Finally, by finding common ground and sharing activities both partners enjoy together, the relationship becomes more than just a romance - it becomes a lasting partnership based on friendship.
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